Looking For New Friends To 'Hang out' With?
There are many singles that after divorce or separation
are looking for other single
friends for socializing with and who may not be ready for a new dating
relationship just yet. Our social New
Friends category for both women and men is designed for singles like you
as we all need friends at some time in our lives. Whether it is simply to
enjoy life with or to commiserate with.
The process of meeting and making friends is usually accomplished long before
we analyse how and why. By the time we reach adolescence the process has become
more conscious and so becomes more difficult as we weight the pros and cons
of getting to know someone. By the time we are adults and difficulties can
appear even more numerous as the pressures of work and maintaining a roof
over our heads mean yet further restrains upon us. Being single and adult
the problems involved in making new friends can multiply again.
The number of single adults in this country is increasing for a variety of
reasons. People are marrying later or are divorcing more frequently. Women
are pursuing their careers and financial independence for longer. The right
partner may not have appeared. The right partner may have died. It could be
a simple decision to remain single. Whatever the reasons and whatever the
status, we still want friends. However, what happens when you realise that
your social circle has shrunk and that your diary has more blanks than you
feel comfortable with?
By placing your new friends ad or if you're already a member contacting
members or replying to contacts you've received you can make new friends easily,
by doing so you will be taking charge of your social life and no longer leaving
to chance. Quite simply having good friends makes even the simple things in
life more enjoyable.
Start looking at your life style and deciding on the areas that you would
like to include other people in. You may well be quite content with your own
company through the week but Saturday night alone can seem very empty. Traditional
holidays and feast days can assume terrible proportions as the expectation
of 'having a good time' increases. Going to the cinema may be enjoyable on
your own but eating a meal in a restaurant isn't. A weekend away can be a
revitalising solo venture but not a two-week summer break. Spot your particular
needs when looking for new friends and when
placing your new friends social ad or if you are a member update
your social ad to include that information.
Bereavement
Bereavement can leave people with a circle of friends
that suddenly seems to consist mainly of couples and whose attitude to you
undergoes a subtle change once you are no longer half a partnership. Meeting
a new set of people that have only known you as a single person can be a wonderful
boost to your self-confidence after the difficult period of mourning. By placing
your new friends ad or if you are already member by contacting others
or replying to your messages you can easily take the plunge and start mixing
with some new people.
Finally
Keep practising your social skills so that they come
easily and don't leave you floundering when introduced to someone. When meeting
friends, old and new, make an effort to be positive and try smiling now and
again. : ) Discussing your problems all the time will not be everybody's idea
of stimulating conversation. There is no reason why you cannot simply listen
for a while if you are stuck for a conversational topic. Friendship involves
give and take after all and ears are a valuable tool.
Meeting new people can be unnerving but the odds are that they are as nervous
as you so take a deep breath and calm down. Beware of the dangers of drinking
too much in order to relax and stick to soft drinks if you think that will
be safer. When introduced to someone try not to judge them to harshly or too
soon as it will take time to get to know them. By all means edit the cranks
and the bores for your life but don't dismiss everyone too quickly.
There is a snowball effect with a social life and the more you do, the more
there will be to do. This is worth remembering on those occasions when the
last thing you want do is make the effort to go out and mix. Say 'no' too
often and the invitations will soon dry up. You can always leave a function
early but if you don't go you will never know who you missed and this applies
to those members contacting you or those you've contacted but haven't yet
replied to! It will seem artificial and contrived as you set about meeting
people and a random numbers game on more than one occasion. It is. But think
of all the hundreds of people you have met in your life and the relative few
you consider friends. Keep going!
Making friends involves the same kind of approach and resolve as embarking
on a sensible diet. You won't see results over night and there will bad weeks
when nothing seems to have happened but after a few months your efforts will
start to bring in results and new friends.
Recently Separated Or Divorced? Not Ready to Dive Into The Dating Game Again
Yet?
Why not start developing a circle of friends to "hang
out" with and get to know others without a lot of expectations? Develop a
new circle of friends, meeting others in a similar situation and getting acquainted
gradually without the pressures of dating, discover who really is special
and then date each other, when you're already friends and well acquainted.
You could develop a nice circle of just female or male friends or both who
knows of other friends to introduce you to and your someone special may just
appear when you were not looking! The point of hanging out is to develop and
maintain friendships.
The bonus advantage is that you get to know people well without dating, and
discover who is special enough to date. Everybody calls everybody. When you're
talking abut friendships, the ancient dating adage that women shouldn't call
me does not apply. You call your friends; you invite friends to do things
together. Hanging out is working on friendships? Everybody calls everybody.
To have friends as a single adult means putting yourself out a bit, taking
some initiative so start right now by joining
or start searching for new
friends. If you are already a member log on and use Power
Search to be more selective.
As Emerson said:
"The only way to have a friend is to be one."
And one of the best ways to do that is to recapture the lost art of "hanging
out."
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