Hey Doc,

I’m sure you’ve seen the recent survey results in all the major newspapers and magazines, which show that women instead of men are increasingly seeking divorces, including when they’re beyond the age of 40, and that they’re straying out of their marriages more and more often when they’re unhappy with their spouses.

Quite frankly, the articles scared the crap out of me. We have enough to worry about when it comes to keeping women happy without having to be concerned about their loyalty in holy matrimony, right?

A few ideas occurred to me regarding this topic, and I’m curious to know if you agree with them or not.

1. It seems like people expect the MAN to cheat and if he does, it’s HIS fault, and not the woman’s.

2. If a woman cheats, it’s the MAN’s fault because he’s not meeting her needs. (Never is it stated that women drive men to infidelity by not meeting HIS needs.)

3. The women interviewed for these surveys seemed proud of cheating, but if the MAN were to act that way, he’d be crucified.

Somehow the whole thing doesn’t seem fair, know what I mean?

I’ve never cheated on any woman myself, and thanks to “The System” I’m getting married soon to a wonderful, giving woman. But tell you the truth, Doc, I sometimes wonder whether I’ll be able to keep her satisfied and if she’ll step out on me when she gets bored. How does a guy keep from getting caught off guard, married or not? Is there any way to know while you’re still dating whether you’ve got a potential cheater on your hands?

I just wanted to get your opinion on this trend and maybe your thoughts in general. As always, thanks for the articles and the help. I’ll continue reading because I want to keep my fiancée’s Interest Level in the upper 90s.

Phil - who doesn’t want to sleep with one eye open

Hi Phil,

It’s amazing. I’ve been singing this very tune since 1985 and now everybody’s finally catching up with me! The Feministas tell women that if they’re miserable, they should get out of their marriages. By the way, the Feministas got into power in 1970 and since then the divorce rate has been 50%. So what’s the big news story here? I was on to this phenomenon long before any fancy surveys were ever conducted.

But I’m glad those articles scared the crap out of you, Phil. I wish more of you would read those statistics, because that’s the problem with lots of men today – they’re not facing reality. Guys get married without proper preparation, think nothing of popping out a few kids, and when they end up being trapped with Psycho Cindy they wonder what the heck happened to their lives. Believe me, I hear from them in droves. Here’s how our conversation runs:

“How long did you know her, Einstein?”

“Well, we had a lot to drink the night we met, and we moved in after three weeks, and then I guess we got a little sloppy – now we got three kids. Doc, how in the world did I get myself into this mess?”

Gee whiz, buddy, I don’t know! But seriously, you Psych majors, it’s called bad choices. Like my cousin Fast Eddie Love says, “Just because she’s a party animal doesn’t mean she’s going to be a great wife and a great mom!” And that’s what my techniques are all about. They steer you in the right direction and guide you to the good choices. Until you follow Doc Love, the problem with you brain surgeons is that you don’t know how and who to date, you’ve all been brainwashed by the Feministas, your parents didn’t raise you right and everybody has a huge ego! Other than that, I got a really good shot at helping you guys!

Phil, here’s the secret to this whole riddle. You don’t have to worry about loyalty from your woman. If she’s happy, she’ll be loyal. Now, on to your points.

1. Men are expected to cheat and it’s their fault. This is part of the brainwashing our society – especially the men -- is subjected to. Turn on Oprah if you don’t believe me. She’s the queen of the victims and she perpetuates this myth. Look at what she pedals. Check out the newspapers and magazines. All you see are stories about husbands murdering wives. They forget to tell you that one-third of the women who off their husbands don’t go to jail! What about that side of the story? What about the men who are being raped in prison? Nothing, not a word do you hear! WHY? Because the woman is the VICTIM in America, and all men are BAD by nature. The Feministas run things! Don’t you guys get it?

2. If the woman cheats, it’s because the man isn’t meeting her needs. In America, only MEN have to take responsibility for their actions. Feministas believe in rights, but no responsibility.

3. Women are proud of their cheating. They’re proud because they’re wallowing in their resentment toward the poor slobs they’re betraying.

So dude, you think the whole thing isn’t fair. TELL ME ABOUT IT! Here’s something to think about. If it weren’t for the Internet, you wouldn’t even be able to send me your questions. My columns have been turned down by every major men’s magazine in the country and by every newspaper in the five western states because the powers that be don’t want to hear what I’m saying. I can’t get arrested, and I’m the only one singing this song about the imbalance of power between the sexes in this country!

Phil, the bad news is that your fiancée will indeed step out on you when she’s bored. The good news is that she’s never going to be bored because you adhere to my techniques, and that means there will always be a certain part of you, a tiny corner she doesn’t know about, and that mystery, that Challenge, is what’s going to keep her busy and intrigued for the rest of her life. And you are going to stay balanced with feet planted firmly on the ground. You’re not going to put her on a pedestal no matter how much you love her. You’re not going to sob on her skirt every time you see an ant (because ants scare you!), just because somebody instructed you to tell your woman all about your insecurities and fears since that’s the crap she loves to hear.

As to your last question, Phil, remember what Sal “The Fish” Love says: “There’s no way of knowing if you’ve got a potential cheater on your hands. That’s why you always have to sleep with one eye open.”

Remember, guys: if she knows you’re a Challenge, and that you’ll always be a Challenge, she’ll never look at another guy.

To send me your love questions or to find out more about “The System,” visit me at http://www.doclove.com

Doc Love is a talk show host and entertainment speaker who coaches men in his seminars. For the past 30 years he has asked thousands of women, “Why do you stay with one man versus another?”

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