I was married last year. In January of this year I moved out and filed for divorce.   It was the best move I ever made. I am a woman who wants so much more out of life than she was promised during her engagement. I realize now that marriage takes two people for it to work and be happy, but only one to make it miserable.

I moved back home with my wonderful, loving, and supportive parents. My father who always reads the paper has caused an addiction for me to your column. I actually look forward to getting and reading the Sunday paper. I feel empowered when I read the stories of your troubled couples. Don't ever stop giving the wonderful advice you give.- May


May, when we watch a rising moon on the horizon, it looks enormous, but when we look at the moon high in the sky, it appears far smaller. Actually the two moons are the same size. You can prove this to yourself by rolling a newspaper into a tube. When the tube is just big enough to encircle the rising moon, it will just barely encircle the moon at any other height.

The horizon moon is an illusion which fools our senses. In the same way there is an illusion which fools us when we don't have anyone. Everywhere we look we see only happy couples, and we feel like the only person who is alone. But once we are with the right person, we can see how many lonely people there are and how many unhappy couples.

Thank you for your kind words. The best advice we can give is this: become an aficionado of great relationships. Notice those people of all ages who have an extraordinary connection to one another. That is what you are looking for. Don't settle for anything less. - Wayne & Tamara



Relationships - Help And Advice - Authors and columnists Wayne and Tamara Mitchell can be reached at www.WayneAndTamara.com. Send letters to: Direct Answers, PO Box 964, Springfield, MO 65801 or email: DirectAnswers@WayneAndTamara.com. - A New Moon - I moved out and filed for divorce