Friends And Relationships - Heterosexual And Lesbian:
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I am 63 years old. I have met a 32-year-old lesbian. I am heterosexual. She is lovely, and we get on so well. She says she loves me. I know I love her. We haven't dated beyond having dinner at a restaurant a couple of times. Should I take a step to encourage her, or just give up?

I take rejection personally. If she rejects me, we might not be friends anymore, and I will lose a "love of my life." - Andrew

Andrew, often when friends are of the opposite sex, one party wants to make the relationship more than friendship.

It's a little like the song "Love the One You're With." It would be inconceivable for you to go trolling for a date in a lesbian bar, but because this woman is your friend and you have a relationship, it's conceivable that you could want more. She's here, I want someone, why can't I love the one I'm with? Your feelings aren't at all unusual, but she has a different orientation.

If you are truly friends, you will know whether or not you should say something. As with any friendship, you don't say or do anything to hurt a friend. That's a measure of your love for her. - Wayne & Tamara

Relationships - Help And Advice - Authors and columnists Wayne and Tamara Mitchell can be reached at www.WayneAndTamara.com. Send letters to: Direct Answers, PO Box 964, Springfield, MO 65801 or email: DirectAnswers@WayneAndTamara.com. -  Friends And Relationships - Heterosexual And Lesbian - Bird In Hand

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