Find Perfect Partner Guide on How to Find Your Perfect Partner Online

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Find Perfect Partner
A Free Guide on How to Find Your Perfect Partner Online

How to Find Your Ideal Lover
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It's worth pointing out here that I'm not suggesting you need to make an absolute switch from negative to positive because behaviours rarely have that kind 'on/off' characteristic. Most often you will be somewhere on a scale running from very negative to very positive. What I'm suggesting is that you attempt to move yourself more towards the positive end of the scale for those characteristics that you need to, even if you never get to the extreme end. In this way you reduce the negative aspects of your character, and enhance your positive aspects.

As an example of this, I used to work in an engineering company, mostly guys, and over the years I worked there, the job got more stressful for everybody, as the company slowly went downhill. It eventually became a habit to swear in everyday conversation, and when the pressure was on the really vile stuff came out too. Now most people in the department did this, so I was not alone. However I caught myself one day using swear words in a conversation with my manager, for no good reason. I stopped talking and apologised for my language. At that point I new I had to change my behaviour, which had become a habit. I made a conscious effort to at least cut the worst swearing out of everyday conversation which I did almost immediately (It's still acceptable if you hit your thumb with a hammer though. At the end of that year I left and joined an IT company. This time I was working in an office full of women, and women don't generally appreciate swearing in normal conversation (although under pressure they can still swear like troopers, so my habit breaking continued to the next stage! I was later told that they thought I was very quite for the first 3 months, which was true. I was wary of opening my mouth and letting myself down. I still swear occasionally (throbbing thumb moments but I haven't sworn in every day conversation for years. I managed to move myself far enough towards the positive end of the habit to feel much more comfortable with that aspect of my behaviour.

Now if you take your list of things you want to change about yourself and try do it all at once you will fail and your self-esteem will drop. You need to set yourself up for success, by giving yourself realistic targets to achieve, and tackle things one at a time, because to break or set a habit you'll need to concentrate for those 40+ days.

My advice is to tackle the simpler stuff first, because those habits will be easier to change, and you're more likely to get an early success. You're confidence will go up, making it easier to tackle the next most difficult habit, and so on.

When you set yourself targets, also set yourself interim targets. For example if you think you want to loose a stone in weight, instead of going on a crash diet (which is unhealthy in the long run), just examine your eating habits, and cut out just one bad eating habit to start with. For example if you often feel hungry and snack between meals, have some fruit instead of crisps or biscuits. Even just doing this will allow your weight to start falling, without you having to cut out anything from your main meals. Do this for the 45 days or so, until you reach for the fruit without thinking, then cut out another bad eating habit. This will take time but you are more likely to maintain success than on a crash diet.

When you've successfully achieved an objective and changed a bad habit into a good one (or at least a much less bad one), give yourself a reward, which is not linked to the habit. In other words don't loose a stone in weight then treat yourself to a couple of cheeseburgers and a big apple pie! Buy yourself a CD instead, or treat yourself to an evening at the theatre, anything as long as it's not to do with food!

As you start working on your habits, you may find you need support and encouragement so don't be afraid of asking a trusted family member or friend to help you achieve your objectives. If necessary you may need to seek professional help to overcome your worst habits, but if you want to prepare yourself for your perfect partner, you'll do it, right?

Where do I find my Perfect Partner?

OK, so you now have a definition of your perfect partner, an idea of what they will be looking for, and are taking steps to make sure you fit the imagined profile of their perfect partner as closely as possible. The last task is to find them (or get them to find you), and then you can ride off into the sunset together!

In principle this is rather straight forward. Display yourself where your perfect partner will find you. For example, if you want to meet a millionaire, you need to hang out with millionaires, such as at a yacht club, motor sports events, charity balls, or the opera etc.!

So, it's back to your profile of your perfect partner. Where does this kind of person go for entertainment, to play sports, recreation and so on. What kind of companies would they work for? What kind of newspapers and magazines do they read? What kind of web sites do they surf? All these things will give you ideas on how you might place yourself in a position to contact, or be contacted by them. If you really want to pursue your perfect partner actively, then you'll find out where the 'right crowd' is and try get in with them.

Also don't forget the passive approach, where you give opportunity for your perfect partner to contact you. As you know from downloading this guide, Newfriends4U is one of many personal contact sites available online. Since the Internet has a world wide reach, and your perfect partner might not actually be in your home town (or even your home country!) it makes sense to place an advert on the Internet.

In short, to meet your 'Perfect Partner', you need to take every possible opportunity for contact. Why not start by visiting NewFriends4U and posting your Profile Advert for the entire world to see? Visit NewFriends4U.com and try it out today, to see if it's right for you.

You have nothing to loose, and we look forward to welcoming you as a full member.

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