On With The Show The man I've seen for two years has yet to introduce me to any of his acquaintances. He's a director, actor, and entertainer who also oversees a nonprofit organization. He's never introduced me to the people in the group and doesn't invite me to cast parties or get-togethers. He says he likes to keep his personal and business lives separate.
I'm not writing to ask if this is a one-sided relationship. It is. Am I a tad codependent? Yes. I am not trying to make him into a monster or me into a victim. I deserve some of the blame if I am unhappy. I am not disputing that. The question is how do I go about breaking it off with him?
He's a very logical, shrewd, and bombastic sort of guy. He's brilliant, funny, and we have a lot in common, but when I tell him I don't feel a part of his life, he brings up good, windy arguments and doesn't leave my apartment. I end up feeling irrational and exhausted. I am searching for a non-emotional, logical argument to use in my defense to his arguments.
Angelina
Angelina, the song "Razzle Dazzle" from the musical "Chicago" describes your boyfriend's tactics. The premise of the song is this: whenever someone puts you on the spot, razzle dazzle 'em. Change the subject, put on a three-ring circus, or throw them a double whammy. As the song says, with all that going on, "How can they hear the truth above the roar?"
Some show business people have enough intelligence for two people. They can memorize a whole play in the time it takes you to memorize the smallest part. They're used to holding center stage and not allowing anyone to upstage them, but there is one strategy which will work. Put all his belongings outside your door. That is one argument he cannot refute.
Wayne & Tamara
Authors and columnists Wayne and Tamara Mitchell can be reached at www.WayneAndTamara.com. Send letters to: Direct Answers, PO Box 964, Springfield, MO 65801 or email: DirectAnswers@WayneAndTamara.com.
Conduct Unbecoming - He wanted to marry her. She was deeply in love with him.
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