"Everything That Seemed Perfect About Him Before Seemed Imperfect"
I've been in a relationship with a loving, sweet man. From the start we spent a great deal of time together, usually at his house because he has a lot of issues with panic attacks and driving. As time went on he told me he loved me and could see spending the rest of his life with me.
I thought he was incredibly hot, and to be honest, I could not keep my hands off him. A month ago I woke up one morning and felt numb. Everything that seemed perfect about him before seemed imperfect. I started analyzing him and finding a million things wrong. I even started dreading his daily calls.
He did nothing wrong, I mean, he's been the same person all along. Why do I feel this way? My friends think I may have commitment issues.
Samantha
Samantha, we had a golden retriever named Einstein. He had hip dysplasia and arthritis, even as a youngster. Some might have seen a million things wrong with him, but we never did because we loved him so.
With this man you narrowed your focus to the pleasurable elements, but at the first inkling of making this permanent, you were forced to see the rest of him. That's not a commitment problem. That's realizing you don't want to own all the things you see wrong with this man.
Tamara
Authors and columnists Wayne and Tamara Mitchell can be reached at www.WayneAndTamara.com. Send letters to: Direct Answers, PO Box 964, Springfield, MO 65801 or email: DirectAnswers@WayneAndTamara.com.
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