Cats And Dogs
I recently moved in with a man. We were friends
for three years, then we fell in love. We now live together and have
two cats. He is the love of my life: wonderful, kind, and caring. He
is truly my best friend.
The cats are his babies. I love cats, too, but have one problem. The
problem is in the bedroom. These cats run the house, climb on the countertops,
and lay on the kitchen table. I can live with that, but he thinks they
should always be allowed in the bedroom and the door should not be closed
"because they like to lie on the bed."
I have put up with cats staring at me, crawling on me, and going
under the covers to play with my feet during intimacy. Finally, the
other day I got up, put them out, and closed the door. I said, "I can't
concentrate!"
He thought this was terrible, and I was being mean. I know he was upset,
and as soon as we finished lovemaking, he got up and let them back in.
We don't have children. Do you think this may cause problems for us
in the future? I intend to keep putting them out and closing the door.
Amber
Amber, Jon Katz wrote a book called "The New Work
of Dogs." His name is Katz and his field is dogs, but what he says applies
to cats as well: companion animals tend to our emotional needs. We seek
beings to love and to love us. Not surprisingly, when television usage
exploded in America, the number of companion animals also exploded.
Jon Katz mentions a lonely woman who got a dog at Christmas, reasoning
if she couldn't find a good man, at least she could find a good dog.
Perhaps your boyfriend was like that. At one time the cats were his
only reliable companions, and he deferred to them.
Now he has you. It's time to discuss the proper role of cats in his
life. Jon's book is the kind of book you can read together in bed, with
the door closed and the cats on the other side.
Wayne & Tamara
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